54. Brits Drinking in France – with Mandy Manners


Tribe Sober – inspiring an alcohol-free life!

This week my guest is Mandy Manners.  Mandy has her own recovery story to tell.  Alcohol-free for more than 4 years, she is now a recovery coach and author.

In this Episode

  • Mandy and I are both Brits married to Frenchmen, so we’re able to discuss and contrast the very different attitudes to drinking in UK & France.
  • Mandy’s French husband was able to cut down easily when they became parents but for her, it was not quite so easy.
  • She believes that in France you are either seen as an “alcoholic” or someone who can have just one glass.
  • When she first moved to France, she had two young children and felt isolated, which meant that her drinking got worse.
  • Mandy had a touch of sober curiosity when she met her sister in law who didn’t drink, yet she seemed to be happy!
  • After stopping and starting for years she reached out to Soberistas for help and found the community a great help.
  • We both agreed that “finding your people” was an essential first stop – find a community that suits you.
  • She had been a binge drinker during her teenage years and also took recreational drugs.
  • Mandy highlighted the fact that hard drugs are demonized, whereas alcohol is encouraged.
  • Like many of us, Mandy tried to moderate for years – setting (and breaking) many of her own rules about when she should drink.
  • Due to a trauma in her teenage years, Mandy had underlying issues which meant she needed to work with a therapist.
  • Mandy said that many people feel that once they’ve sorted the rest of their life out then they will address their drinking. However, it should be the other way round – stop drinking and you will be able to sort your other issues.
  • Mandy is now 4 years sober and thriving in her alcohol-free life. She has a better relationship with her husband and kids – she sleeps so much better.
  • She is now a recovery coach and has written a book called “Love Yourself Sober”. She has a podcast called “Love Sober” and her website is mandymanners.com
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