“To Be or Not To Be” was Hamlet’s dilemma as he contemplated suicide.
The Big Question for people who come along to our workshops is:
“To Moderate or To Quit?”- which can actually be a major and even life saving decision.
I have worked with more than 800 people and facilitated 45+ workshops and I have learned a thing or 2!
7 Things I Know About “Moderation”
- We call our workshops “How to Quit or Moderate Drinking” – it’s not a “trick” but it is an effort to attract a wider audience of people – people who would benefit from reflecting on their “relationship with alcohol” and deciding whether or not they need to make any changes.
- I am pretty convinced that about 95% of people who come along have already “crossed a line” and need to stop drinking completely – for many of us, the harsh truth is that there is no going back – we have to change our mindset and embrace an alcohol-free future as a positive lifestyle choice.
- For many of us the “moderation” phase is part of the decision making process. We have to moderate, fail and try again many times before we “get it” and finally realise that it will be easier to stop altogether. I was in this “contemplation” phase for 10 years – it is the “fear” of life without alcohol that keeps us locked in this stage. It is a shame because hopping on and off the wagon means we never actually get to experience the joy of being sober – and there is joy to be had but only if we hang in there.
- We emphasise at our workshops that drinking more than a bottle and a half of wine a week means putting our health at risk. So, if a workshop participant is not ready to quit drinking, then we recommend they try to keep to this limit. We emphasise that if they keep trying and keep failing then this is a clear message that they must stop. Although we talk about “moderators” what we actually mean is “controllers”.
- A true “moderator” is someone who never thinks about alcohol, would never dream of drinking alone – someone who may have a glass of champagne at a wedding to toast the bride or a glass of very good wine with a celebration meal. Certainly not someone who would sign up for a Tribe Sober workshop – we would not even be on their radar.
- People who succeed in “controlling’ their intake to the recommended limit are the ones who are clever enough to sign up for a workshop. They are aware that they may be on a “slippery slope” and need to self-correct before their drinking becomes problematic.
- Last but not least – after a period of sobriety, many people think, “OK I’ve got this, I was able to pull back so cannot be an alcoholic. Now I can moderate.” Well, the chances are that you will be able to – for a while – and then gradually you will start drinking more and more until you are right back where you started!
Why not book into one of our workshops to learn more about YOUR relationship with alcohol – more info and booking link is HERE