Ruari’s Letter

Dear Alcohol,

Thank you for the fantastic years together; you have been a great friend for so long.

You have brought endless fun, gotten me into many hilarious and disturbing situations, got me laid, hired, fired, sent to A&E and even to a little town called Manningtree, when I was supposed to be at the church.
We’ve had so much fun together over the years. We’ve had some laughs, we’ve had some tears.
But things have changed for me now; there are so many things I want to achieve in this life and you are holding me back.

I find it really painful to tell you this truth because you’ve been such a good friend, but I can’t be around you anymore.
You are destructive, and you have started to ruin parts of my life.
I didn’t realise you were doing this; you’ve been doing it all behind my back.
I wake up each day hearing stories of what you have been doing to me.
The lies, the pain.

I’ve come to realise that I don’t need you anymore. All the time I thought you were helping, you were destroying.
It’s heartbreaking that I put so much trust, money and time into our relationship, and you have been so cunning and deceitful. The destruction to my family and my body and my life plans. I can’t take any more of this.

So I have to let you go. I don’t want you to call me.
Don’t chase me; just leave me, as I have moved on.
Take care, my friend.

*Ruari is a sobriety advocate who runs the  One Year No Beer program. 


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